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Moody in the Middle

How to Move Forward

How to Move Forward After a Setback

There are few things more challenging than being able to pick yourself up after a setback. This is especially true if you lack confidence, and are easily shaken by running into challenges. If you don’t believe in yourself, the process of working toward a goal can be excruciating. Fortunately, there are many ways that you can start to re-motivate yourself when you have faced an unforeseen obstacle so that you can begin to move forward no matter what the setback may have been.


The first thing you need to do, whether you consider yourself the sensitive type or not, is to express the feelings that occur when you realize that you may have done something wrong or face the challenge that you were not able to overcome very easily. It is natural to feel miserable after an experience like that, no matter how self-imposed you may be. You should express your feelings and frustrations, and consider your fears about the situation so that you are not surprised in the future and you do not bottle of your emotions only to find that they come back and bite you later on.

Next, you should turn to your support group. These are people around you that you trust and talk to about your goals and plans. These are the types of people who will be supportive and encouraging, not toxic and negative. If you tell them how you feel about your setback, they may be able to help you to see the situation in a better light and provide you with outside perspectives that you may not have considered previously.
Take other people’s feedback seriously, and use it in a constructive way even if it stings at the time. Most of the time people who are truly supportive are not out to take you down. They simply want to help you, and you should let them. Everybody has a blind spot when it comes to their own plans, so listen to people who have your best interest at heart and see what you might learn from them.


Next, reevaluate. Think about where you might have gone wrong or what obstacle came up. What are some things that you could have done to prevent this issue from occurring? Think hard about an alternative approach to take if you are ever faced with a similar situation, and turn the negative feelings about your setback into a positive opportunity for growth. There is no better time to learn from your mistakes and when you have a goal that you truly want to succeed at. So take this opportunity to grow and learn so that you can become as successful as possible.

They can be very hard to deal with setbacks, but if you are willing to do so with grace and an open mind, you may find that you are actually benefiting from what might have seemed like a failure at the time. If you are willing to view your situation in a positive light rather than a negative one, you may find that you have discovered the key to succeeding has been there all along.